When relationships dissolve there are always hurt feelings, case in point girlfriends. Yea, sometimes these end too just like romances one person goes the other way never to be heard from again unless you happen to bump into them somewhere.

People want to believe they were wronged, especially if they were the one left hanging. Sure you were rejected or cut off and maybe you think you don't know why but there is one thing you can count on- The other person knows why they needed to severe ties with you. Chances are you won't ask them the reason because you don't want your feelings hurt and you know on some level they were justified. If you ever find yourself the dump-e here are some fine points you may want to consider:

1) Your not a child and therefore your not as innocent and you pretend to be.

2) Be honest. You judged your friend over and over and thought you were getting away with it because she never confronted you.

3) You want to believe your good with people and maybe you are-on the surface, but the truth is your alone most of the time.

4) Your stepping up your game now with a few remaining people when you should have stepped up your game with your former friend and now it's too late.

5) Where you ever really there for your friend emotionally or was it all about you?

6) Would you be shocked if you found out things you didn't know were going on in the former friends life at the time of the "friendship?" Therein lies the problem. (See above #5)

7) Did you and your friend have anything significant in common like a belief system? Did you place value on the same things or just grow apart?

8) Did you need to control everything in the relationship? The phone calls, the where, the how, the who of hanging out? Was there any room for compromise or did you need to be the boss?

If someone dumps you or moves away what good are you doing yourself by going under the blanket of denial? People come into our lives and they don't always stay, that's life. We all know there are two sides to every story. Instead of mastering the role of victim, why not look into what it truly means to be emotionally available & present?

Ponder This. Still photo from: Lost In Translation