Today was a slow day at work but in the course of doing my job I met a couple of men & I began thinking if I could design the perfect man at this stage of my life what would I look for? One needs to reevaluate these things from time to time, write it down and then turn it over to the universe.

* A widower. One whose wife was gone for at least 2 years (a decent amount of time to grieve), children would be fine but hopefully no more than two off spring.

* A decent job and a decent car. Neither should be shabby or age inappropriate. I will not date policemen or male nurses- too many issues.

* A guy who is politically and environmentally conscience. NO HUGE TRUCKS OR MOTORCYCLES PLEASE, no exceptions.

* Non-smoker, no drugs, light social drinker like myself.

* Has priorities such as humor, honesty, monogamy, family and friends.

* Someone who enjoys going out at least once a week, work doesn't count.

* Common interests should include reading, traveling, socializing, quiet nights at home watching DVDs.

* We should meet by fate and or mutial friend fix-up, not some personal ad or myspace cruising- that rings of desperation. We should be an unexpected surprise for one another, not two dead batteries trying to start a car.

* My ideal man should come from a quality family that has a certain amount of resources.

* No drug history or police records. Since I have neither I don't think that's too much to ask in someone else.

* This person should be my intellectual equal, well read and informed so we can chat for hours. He should also be spiritually fit with some insight into people and a desire to grow and change as a person.

Okay that's about it I guess. I don't care so much about looks although he should think I am beautiful. If he has these qualities I will be attracted to him.

Sign me-

Single and Not Settling