There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic. ~ Author, Liz Tuccillo

Recently a friend said to me about her buddy with benefits, “I think he is more into me than he wants to admit.”

I politely smiled and wondered to myself why we women are still doing this to ourselves. Why do we refuse to accept a mans actions over our own mind reading skills? Why do we think we know someone better than they know themselves? Some of us are handing over our personal power without even realizing what we are doing. The price we pay to stroke our own ego is far greater than the reward.

Many single women find themselves taking months and even years trying to figure out where a relationship stands. A new book entitled, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys is challenging single straight woman to look at themselves and examine their own fears. Instead of making allowances for a mans lack of real interest, the authors suggests a person stop wasting valuable time and start living for a higher standard. The authors advocate accepting reality early on and move on to something significant or at the very least living a full, joyous single life without compromises.

I’m not a lover of chick lit or most dating self help rule books, but I’m happy these authors are giving woman another option in which to feel good and take back personal power. Most of the time, those of us who rebuke the norm of romantic love are made to feel like bitter old spinsters or oddballs. He's just not that into you, Ok but you don’t have to let that slow you down. You can still look and feel great for the most important person in your life, you.