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February 23, 2005

It Just Came Up

Today at work the discussion came up about watching friends enter into bad relationships. It's funny how when its something the person wants they can't see the red flags waving under right their nose. We compared potential red flags such as different children by different people, lost or forfeited custody of children and of course the excessive drinking bomb that tic, tic, tics away. We marveled at how people still persist head on and in fact resent the red flags being pointed out to them. kaboom!.gif Posted by Liz at February 23, 2005 06:54 PM




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Posted by: emon xie  |  February 24, 2005 02:23 AM

I would actually like to learn more from what insights came from this discussion, or otherwise more from your own thoughts on this very volatile topic.

Thanks!
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Posted by: susan  |  February 25, 2005 02:56 PM

I would love to know more too...I have struggled with an ex--trying to be friends (which was hard because of lingering feelings) and his new relationship (an "oldie" who ended us as we were a "newie"). Anyway, their up and down relationship is the stuff of my middle school students (often because of our friendship) and he becomes someone I don't know or even like when they are together. I finally removed myself from the friendship/craziness, but wonder if in other situations we need to step away from these time bombs? Insights?...


Posted by: susan  |  February 25, 2005 02:57 PM

I would love to know more too...I have struggled with an ex--trying to be friends (which was hard because of lingering feelings) and his new relationship (an "oldie" who ended us as we were a "newie"). Anyway, their up and down relationship is the stuff of my middle school students (often because of our friendship) and he becomes someone I don't know or even like when they are together. I finally removed myself from the friendship/craziness, but wonder if in other situations we need to step away from these time bombs? Insights?...


Posted by: joaobambu  |  February 26, 2005 05:16 PM

If I continue to work freelance; I might become misanthropic again...


Posted by: Camilo  |  March 2, 2005 04:06 PM

It is because we all use defense mechanisms to block that which is somehow threatening or harmful, thus becoming effectively impaired.
And, when in love, we are blind to all those flags; however, since our friends do see them, it is good to have said friends criticize and talk about these topics, at least for a while.

End of pontification about a subject in which I am not an expert.

But I am a blogger! This is what I do!